I’ve discussed this a lot during summer. I believe that every human being have equal rights. I’m against opression on all grounds, including gender and sex. I find conservative gender-roles repulsive. But I do not want to call myself a feminist. Feminism is a set of theories of what is wrong with the world and what to do about it. So of course men can be feminists.
And still I don’t label myself a feminist. Cheerful Megalomaniac has a very good answer. If someone think that men cannot be feminists, then I put my gender identity first and refuse to call myself a feminist. Pick your fights. This is just not my fight. I believe in diversity among human beings, across the borders of gender. And although some feminists agree with me, there is a lot of so called feminism around that I don’t like:
- The idea that your gender = your sex, that gendered socialization or biology is destiny.
- The focus on so called «female values», that women are more caring and would never start a war.
- The focus on women as victims. Although it is important to recognize opression, I don’t think all women are victims or that all men are rapists or supporting rape. I believe that such a world-view is potentially dangerous.
- The idea of sisterhood. I know I left that behind and I’m not sorry. Stereotypical feminity makes me puke, and the idea of sisterhood implies that one should tolerate stupidity just because it comes from a woman, who is opressed and can’t help it.
I know that these ideas don’t represent feminism as a total, but I find them so disturbing that I want to distance myself from them.